To the editor: Due to columnist Jean Guerrero for her considerate publish about being childless in your mid-30s. I’ve three nieces of childbearing age and so they have by no means acquired any feedback from me about their selections to not have kids.
That mentioned, this downside has classes in inhabitants dynamics. The topic could also be slightly summary to some, however the truth that there at the moment are a couple of thousand occasions as many individuals as there have been after we have been hunter-gatherers is certain to make some assume extra about the issue.
Efforts to scale back the delivery charge might have unintended penalties, however they’re definitely not insurmountable issues. Guerrero ought to preserve the massive columns coming.
Oliver Seely, Lakewood
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To the editor: I by no means needed kids, however my sister did and had two stunning daughters whose lives I used to be privileged to be part of from delivery to highschool.
I made a horrible mistake in my relationship with them. As they grew, I continued to see them as toddlers who have been as hooked up to me as I used to be to them. I started to complain about their life decisions and have become offended once I wasn’t included.
It took years of remedy and quite a lot of self-reflection to comprehend that nobody, not even a mom or an aunt, has the appropriate to manage another person’s life. I noticed once I pushed my nieces away that it might have been the identical with my very own kids.
A giant a part of the rationale I did not have youngsters is as a result of I knew I would make a horrible mom. I might have tended to their bodily wants, however I additionally know that I might have dictated their emotional wants.
Being a mom doesn’t come naturally. It’s a troublesome, usually thankless job. I applaud those that are up for the duty and to those that know it isn’t for them, I say good for you, get pleasure from your life.
Cynthia Lerner, Los Angeles